Maybe we don't need another therapy account on Instagram. But we do need a revolution in wellbeing.
Healing people feel better about themselves, they make healthier choices and lead healthier lives. They have more empathy for others, create respectful boundaries and drive positive change in their families, relationships, communities and workplaces. We live in a messed up world – change is desperately needed. The more people healing out there, the better the world will be. Healing is a multiplier for change in our world.
If something has helped someone in my sessions then getting it out there to more people matters. Therapy is expensive, in the UK free counselling is rare and many private counsellors are booked up. Information here is authentic, it’s come from the people I work with and my own life and healing.
Everyday I hear from people in emotional and mental pain. They are telling me that we have created a world where it is hard to be well – we have more choice, more comfort and more stuff and more information than ever. Yet common coping strategies and ways of living are killing us - smoking, poor diet, physical inactivity and harmful alcohol use are the leading risk factors of preventable ill health and mortality in the UK. We know more about mental health and how to live well than ever before. So why has there been a clear increase in the number of men and the number of people under 25 taking their own life since 2018? Despite pushes for diversity and inclusion “being different” (e.g. LGBTQ or Black) is one of the leading risk factors for mental health problems and suicide risk in UK.
Our unhappiness drives more misery – aggression and judgement, toxic relationships, abusive family patterns and beliefs and expectations across society of who we should be which feel impossible to achieve or sustain.
We try to consume our unhappiness away with stuff (and we all do it – me included). On bad days we might buy a cheap top which has been produced in China. After another awful day at work we might book a flight somewhere that promises sun and relaxation. Tired of feeling vulnerable to judgement or struggling with feelings of being "less than"? We might find ourselves restricting food, or binging or working out endlessly or looking at diet pills, all in the hope that we will be wanted or feel safe from criticism . If we feel insecure we might try to hide behind signifiers or symbols of success a new phone, trainers, a better car, a promotion. We have more than any past generation but we are unhappier than ever and in the process we are depleting natural resources and driving climate change. Our culture, economy, definitions of success and personal goals seem to keep us locked in to this world. We need to find a new way.
And that is why I am here. I believe we can do better. I know we can – from my own experience of healing, therapy and growth. And from the privilege of working since 2013, with young people and adults who have shown me that we can live more empathically, respectfully and authentically. We have to relearn what it means to live well. Everything I write here or post on Instagram will be towards this goal. This is the part I can play in a wellbeing revolution. And it is the part we call all play.
Individual healing = collective wellbeing.
Healing people feel better about themselves, they make healthier choices and lead healthier lives. They have more empathy for others, create respectful boundaries and drive positive change in their families, relationships, communities and workplaces. We live in a messed up world – change is desperately needed. The more people healing out there, the better the world will be. Healing is a multiplier for change in our world.
If something has helped someone in my sessions then getting it out there to more people matters. Therapy is expensive, in the UK free counselling is rare and many private counsellors are booked up. Information here is authentic, it’s come from the people I work with and my own life and healing.
Everyday I hear from people in emotional and mental pain. They are telling me that we have created a world where it is hard to be well – we have more choice, more comfort and more stuff and more information than ever. Yet common coping strategies and ways of living are killing us - smoking, poor diet, physical inactivity and harmful alcohol use are the leading risk factors of preventable ill health and mortality in the UK. We know more about mental health and how to live well than ever before. So why has there been a clear increase in the number of men and the number of people under 25 taking their own life since 2018? Despite pushes for diversity and inclusion “being different” (e.g. LGBTQ or Black) is one of the leading risk factors for mental health problems and suicide risk in UK.
Our unhappiness drives more misery – aggression and judgement, toxic relationships, abusive family patterns and beliefs and expectations across society of who we should be which feel impossible to achieve or sustain.
We try to consume our unhappiness away with stuff (and we all do it – me included). On bad days we might buy a cheap top which has been produced in China. After another awful day at work we might book a flight somewhere that promises sun and relaxation. Tired of feeling vulnerable to judgement or struggling with feelings of being "less than"? We might find ourselves restricting food, or binging or working out endlessly or looking at diet pills, all in the hope that we will be wanted or feel safe from criticism . If we feel insecure we might try to hide behind signifiers or symbols of success a new phone, trainers, a better car, a promotion. We have more than any past generation but we are unhappier than ever and in the process we are depleting natural resources and driving climate change. Our culture, economy, definitions of success and personal goals seem to keep us locked in to this world. We need to find a new way.
And that is why I am here. I believe we can do better. I know we can – from my own experience of healing, therapy and growth. And from the privilege of working since 2013, with young people and adults who have shown me that we can live more empathically, respectfully and authentically. We have to relearn what it means to live well. Everything I write here or post on Instagram will be towards this goal. This is the part I can play in a wellbeing revolution. And it is the part we call all play.
Individual healing = collective wellbeing.
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